Let's be honest. Let's be real.
Can I get real with you for a minute? Like really real? Biz bestie and favorite psychologist real?Okay, cool. Because there are some conversations that we just need to have.
Can I get real with you for a minute?
Like really real? Biz bestie and favorite psychologist real?
Okay, cool.
I lost a friend last week to suicide and it really messed with my mind for a few days. And once I processed through that, [because that's what psychologists do...we counsel ourselves & process the BS] I reflected on my purpose and true authenticity.
Everyone talks about purpose and authenticity right? *sigh*
There’s so much nonsense aka bullshit aka shenanigans out here on the internets teaching you to be you & teaching you to be happy & teaching you to be rich.
No one can teach you to be you.
No one can make you happy.
No set amount of money can make you happy.
Want to be rich? Find a problem, solve it and work hard. Treat your consumers better than gold.
Figure out if 6 figures is even what you want to make. What does that look like in your amazing chic life. I work with women crushing the mid to high 5 figures and they are living grand...on their terms. Just as I work with 6 figure women who are miserable with their biz structure and the "hassle" of their internet fame and others that are living grand.
Let's move on though...
I’ve always been a rebel & for majority of my life, I was a rebel without a cause. I prefer the term maverick, but a rebel nonetheless. I do things my way. I know what works for me and my brands. I know these things because I’m very connected to my purpose. I do what I want.
I employ you to take on & embrace these traits. Being true to you will always make you happy. ALWAYS. No debates here lady.
Doing things that don’t make you feel good inside? STOP!
Doing things because all the other coaches are doing it? STOP!
Unless it’s really something you like to do.
The first system any small business or individual has is themselves.
And not in the sense that you should not connect or collaborate with others. But, in the sense of simple psychology to being an awesome individual. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs addresses that we need to master several areas/needs before we actually get our lives right & can truly help others.
This is the true case of 'started from the bottom, now we’re here'. Am I saying you need to be perfect? Chile please! What I’m saying is you should work towards being as happy and healthy as you know is possible for you. Not anyone else's interpretation of happy or success, but your own. Then it will feel all perfect and sparkly, or like a hot shot of gin if that’s your thing.
Life happens to us all. There’s no avoiding it. Only thing you can do is to ensure that you are constantly depositing into yourself. Then we add the roller coaster of small business and it’s ups and downs. Again, you are front and center.
Protect yourself before you wreck yourself.
A personal fulfillment system which I love to call Chic Systems, is your protection.
A personal fulfillment system should include:
- Clear and defined dreams & goals
- Hobbies that you enjoy at least monthly
- Supportive professional network (biz bestie, mastermind, etc.)
- Supportive personal network (friends & family)
- Weekly self-care
You should be very clear on your dreams and goals. You should have hobbies. Your business will be a big portion of your life, but you should still have other interests that drive you. You have to know what you want and what you don’t want in your life. What you like and what you don’t. What makes you so uncomfortable that you’ll throw up? (Those things will push you towards growth.)
We graduated from preschool years ago. Pretending is no longer mandatory. It’s time for you to do what makes your soul breakdance.
Do you hate blogging? Suck it up! Lol, I kid, I kid. Find another medium -podcast (audio) or video to reach your people. However, get these transcribed on Fiverr so you can post it on your website as a blog post and still be searchable by google.
This expert says do this, so you do it.
This expert says do that, and despite you not wanting to, you do that too.
Make 6 figures and do this this & this, and of course you do this...this…& this.
We go into business to change the world and our own lives. Often times we lose a sense of self and get lost. Even Siri can’t help you where to go. We can learn from others always, even if its what not to do. Many times the information given, is what has worked for that individual based off where they were in business and in life. That information may not work for you. Generalized information available to everyone, may not be for you in all instances. However, you will not be able to fully grasp this, until you are clear on your goals & centered with yourself.
Chic tips to mastery:
- Listen to those that resonate with your core beliefs.
- Request a discovery session with a coach to see if that person and you mesh. {Beware of frauds}
- Try new things.
- Be yourself.
- Incorporate what you love into your business.
- Have fun!
- Evaluate often. Make changes. Evaluate again. Keep it up or make some more changes.
- Change is amazing...embrace that mofo head on!
- Support others genuinely.
xoxo,
Kimber
Your biz bestie
3 ways to be more authentic
This article provides three ways to be more authentic.
Authentic is the new keeping it real. You know when people say, "I'm just keeping it real," as if everything before that statement was a facade.
I started this year with the theme of being authentically me. I then added a level to be more transparent.
The funny thing about it all, I stripped back layers of myself to just be more of myself.
No chasers. No filters. just Kimber lee.
3 ways to be more authentic
1. Get very clear on your values.
Once you know what your values are those will immediately create boundaries for you to act out of.
2. Don't do anything that you don't want to do.
I've always been a bit of a rebel and a natural leader.
Yet there are times where I would do things for others or go places because someone else wanted me to. No more. If I really don't want to do something that I don't want to, I don't.
Often things that we condition ourselves to believe are obligatory are not.
So no more wasted energy dreading events or projects that I didn't want to attend/participate in.
The power of no is incredible. Now don't just be a jerk, but do what makes you happy. And people will tell you that it's selfish and you should budge.
Funny how you're selfish for not doing what others want you to do instead of what you really want to do.
Do what makes you feel good.
That's the thing with being authentically you. It's about you and that's okay.
3. Make no apologies for who you are and who you aren't.
At this point in life, we know our strengths and weaknesses. Make no apologies for either.
If you intentionally hurt someone shame on you.
If by accident, apologize. I promise it takes nothing from you, and it was an accident.
If there's an area in your life that you know you need to improve on. Do it on your terms when you're ready.
You can only FLOURISH when you're ready.
So when you're ready to embrace your flaws, weaknesses, and scars embrace them.
Don’t like them? Do something about it.
That’s the funny thing about being authentic, you are just being you.
No bells or whistles. No filters. Just you.