Survive Summer as a WAHM (work at home mom)
Warning: this post is for the mamas.
However, if you need help really tackling your time...read up!
Summer is here and your amazing babes are home with you. You have it all planned out, you will wake up at 5 A.M. and work before they wake up. By 8 A.M. you will have breakfast on the table for them. Some morning quality time before you start back at 10 am. You planned activities to keep them entertained until lunch time.
Your babes have another plan which deviates fully from your plan. You end up apologizing to your clients for the loud outbursts that keep coming through your end of Skype. If you have more than one child you may have to break a few disagreements up that only the honorable judge Mama has the ability to settle.
And all of this occurred day 1 before lunch.
Welcome to the summer...solopreneur stay at home mama edition.
Summer camp, sitters & nannies make this thing work smoothly. Believe me when I tell you. Even if just for a few hours a day. You quickly learn to maximize how much you can get done in two hours. Honestly, most of our days are transitioning from one thing to the next. So when you alleviate transitions and just get it done...you activate your productivity super power.
First thing first: Life happens. There will be dramaticals (kid induced dramatic situations that really aren’t that serious)! You will be annoyed, they will be annoyed. Hug it out and (or) have a water balloon fight.
For my service provider mamas: first thing you need to do is decide how many client hours you are offering over the summer and what your active office hours.
I have a client, whom we'll call Dani. This is her first summer working full time in her growing business. Dani has two daughters aged 3 years old and 6 years old. Her partner works outside the home and is usually home by 6 pm.
Dani set her office hours to 10am-2pm Tuesday through Thursday. These are the times she meets with clients and is available for clients. Monday's and Thursday's she offers evening hours on a case by case basis. Dani decided based on her current retainer clients, projects, and summer vacations she would take on 4 additional clients for the summer. How many clients are you able to take on?
Plan your schedule with your babes if they are old enough to contribute.
Where do they want to go during the day?
What do they want to learn? (Learning is year round. Make it fun. Have themes.)
Libraries have awesome summer programs for kids of all ages.
Keep an area/drawer full of activities for them to entertain themselves with during your office hours.
Enroll your babes in activities. These activities usually have a set time & you can bring your laptop & work on the go.
Establish lunch and snack times. Hangry (hungry + angry) mini humans are no bueno for business.
You are solopreneur extraordinaire and summer camp leader. Children love structure and order, despite the word "no" being a fave of theirs.
Just like camp there are schedules that are followed. Another schedule, Kimber? I'm already busy.
I know most creatives despise schedules. However, this takes 30 minutes at most, done once, and guess what? You will then have a summer full of good times with your babes & a thriving biz.
Here's a sample of the camp Dani & I devised:
Monday’s are transitional. Getting in the groove from the weekend and getting the crack down on biz. ½ the day is fun and the other ½ is business. Administrative work is fit in around active child activities. Pinterest has summer activities for kids, older kids and teens.
Friday are free days. Which means go outside and enjoy the sunshine.
Tuesday through Thursday:
7am -10am quality time w/ babes (breakfast, cuddles, play & talks, reminder of office hours)
10-12 client time
12-12:30 lunch
12:30-2 client time
2pm on is flexible
Client time is usually free time for the babes to play and have individual enrichment time.
Pick two days out the month (weekends are perfect) to batch content (blog posts, podcasts, videos, social media images).
There will be days after your client hours when you just aren’t able to get your administrative work done. Acknowledge that now.
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Yes, it is okay.
Your business is not going to fall apart, you are just going to have to move things around. The recommended advice is “work when your children are asleep.” Being a realistic mama of three, sometimes when they are sleep, I want to be asleep too. So times when I normally "chill," are converted to work times.
When your children are awake outside of office hours, be present with them. They will always be your best consumers.
Chic Tips to Mastery this summer:
Turn off your Email alerts. Use Inbox Pause to pause your email. You check your email too much. You really do. If you check your email more than thrice (2-3 times) a day, that’s too much. Unless President Obama is emailing you. Pause it, so you won’t even be tempted to check and respond.
Delegate tasks. If you think outsourcing and hiring contractors is expensive, stay up for 24 hours being super mom and solopreneur. Delegate household tasks too (chores & cooking to your huni or older babes).
Get organized. Use Evernote & Asana to manage your biz on the go.
Review your schedule the night before & the morning of.
Stick to the boundaries you set- work hours or work space. This gives you the freedom to concentrate fully on the tasks at hand - work or play.
Get your rest. 7-8 hours non negotiable. You are of no service to your clients or children burned out.
Self-care needs to be scheduled in. Click here for self-care ideas.
Brain dump a minimum of once a week or whenever you start to feel overwhelmed.
Identify time wasters. Write them on post-it notes and place around your computer to remind you NOT to waste time. (Facebook is mine. I use StayFocused to block certain sites & track my time.)
Let's be honest. Let's be real.
Can I get real with you for a minute? Like really real? Biz bestie and favorite psychologist real?Okay, cool. Because there are some conversations that we just need to have.
Can I get real with you for a minute?
Like really real? Biz bestie and favorite psychologist real?
Okay, cool.
I lost a friend last week to suicide and it really messed with my mind for a few days. And once I processed through that, [because that's what psychologists do...we counsel ourselves & process the BS] I reflected on my purpose and true authenticity.
Everyone talks about purpose and authenticity right? *sigh*
There’s so much nonsense aka bullshit aka shenanigans out here on the internets teaching you to be you & teaching you to be happy & teaching you to be rich.
No one can teach you to be you.
No one can make you happy.
No set amount of money can make you happy.
Want to be rich? Find a problem, solve it and work hard. Treat your consumers better than gold.
Figure out if 6 figures is even what you want to make. What does that look like in your amazing chic life. I work with women crushing the mid to high 5 figures and they are living grand...on their terms. Just as I work with 6 figure women who are miserable with their biz structure and the "hassle" of their internet fame and others that are living grand.
Let's move on though...
I’ve always been a rebel & for majority of my life, I was a rebel without a cause. I prefer the term maverick, but a rebel nonetheless. I do things my way. I know what works for me and my brands. I know these things because I’m very connected to my purpose. I do what I want.
I employ you to take on & embrace these traits. Being true to you will always make you happy. ALWAYS. No debates here lady.
Doing things that don’t make you feel good inside? STOP!
Doing things because all the other coaches are doing it? STOP!
Unless it’s really something you like to do.
The first system any small business or individual has is themselves.
And not in the sense that you should not connect or collaborate with others. But, in the sense of simple psychology to being an awesome individual. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs addresses that we need to master several areas/needs before we actually get our lives right & can truly help others.
This is the true case of 'started from the bottom, now we’re here'. Am I saying you need to be perfect? Chile please! What I’m saying is you should work towards being as happy and healthy as you know is possible for you. Not anyone else's interpretation of happy or success, but your own. Then it will feel all perfect and sparkly, or like a hot shot of gin if that’s your thing.
Life happens to us all. There’s no avoiding it. Only thing you can do is to ensure that you are constantly depositing into yourself. Then we add the roller coaster of small business and it’s ups and downs. Again, you are front and center.
Protect yourself before you wreck yourself.
A personal fulfillment system which I love to call Chic Systems, is your protection.
A personal fulfillment system should include:
- Clear and defined dreams & goals
- Hobbies that you enjoy at least monthly
- Supportive professional network (biz bestie, mastermind, etc.)
- Supportive personal network (friends & family)
- Weekly self-care
You should be very clear on your dreams and goals. You should have hobbies. Your business will be a big portion of your life, but you should still have other interests that drive you. You have to know what you want and what you don’t want in your life. What you like and what you don’t. What makes you so uncomfortable that you’ll throw up? (Those things will push you towards growth.)
We graduated from preschool years ago. Pretending is no longer mandatory. It’s time for you to do what makes your soul breakdance.
Do you hate blogging? Suck it up! Lol, I kid, I kid. Find another medium -podcast (audio) or video to reach your people. However, get these transcribed on Fiverr so you can post it on your website as a blog post and still be searchable by google.
This expert says do this, so you do it.
This expert says do that, and despite you not wanting to, you do that too.
Make 6 figures and do this this & this, and of course you do this...this…& this.
We go into business to change the world and our own lives. Often times we lose a sense of self and get lost. Even Siri can’t help you where to go. We can learn from others always, even if its what not to do. Many times the information given, is what has worked for that individual based off where they were in business and in life. That information may not work for you. Generalized information available to everyone, may not be for you in all instances. However, you will not be able to fully grasp this, until you are clear on your goals & centered with yourself.
Chic tips to mastery:
- Listen to those that resonate with your core beliefs.
- Request a discovery session with a coach to see if that person and you mesh. {Beware of frauds}
- Try new things.
- Be yourself.
- Incorporate what you love into your business.
- Have fun!
- Evaluate often. Make changes. Evaluate again. Keep it up or make some more changes.
- Change is amazing...embrace that mofo head on!
- Support others genuinely.
xoxo,
Kimber
Your biz bestie
Automate Your Life
When you automate your business...you instantly find ways to automate your life. 3 chic ways to automate your life.
What's the one thing you hate doing? I mean you could think of 456,348 other things to do in place of this thing.
I for one hate cleaning, not like borderline hoarder, but it’s number one on my I could be doing something else list. I've always hated to clean up, I blame my parents. I never had chores as a child and my mom washed my clothes until I was 20. Talk about a disservice.
A year ago I outsourced cleaning to my older children. Fail. It must be genetic. They were horrible and I had to clean up after they cleaned, a total waste of time.
A few months ago I decided I wanted someone to come in and clean my house on a regular basis. The BEST decision I could ever make.
Initially I had to get my Huni on board because his thought process was we were able bodied and should be cleaning our own house. I thought to myself, “well you clean it.” I didn't say it but Lord knows my thoughts have to be filtered at times.
Hiring the house cleaner took away from thoughts of not wanting to clean up or having to use time and energy actually cleaning. That time is now spent doing whatever I want. And I mean whatever.
THAT IS PRICELESS!
Two years ago I outsourced my daughters hair care. It used to take me hours to do her hair. Remember how I said it should never take 8 hours to do a blog post. Well it was taking me about 3 to 4 hours to wash, dry and style her hair, and the style was bootleg. Every other Saturday she has a standing hair appointment. I drop her off and I go about my day. Priceless.
Here are 3 chic ways to automate your life:
1. Thumbtack offers so amazing services (house cleaning, food preparation, dog walking, etc.) to help you automate your life. The biggest win with with Thumbtack is you are supporting other small businesses.
2. Amazon has an auto fulfillment service, Subscribe & Save, that delivers baby items, health & beauty items, pantry grocery items and household items on a recurring schedule that you set. So put that toilet paper and toothpaste on autopilot and you don’t even have to think about it. Subscribe & Save even offers coupons.
3. In my signature program, Automate Your Biz, I help women to automate their business so they can enjoy their lives.
What can you automate in your life?
We Made It - Happy New Year + a download
Mama we made it!
If we were to ever hang out, which we really should in 2015 I would probably blurt that out randomly. You would be having such an amazing time that you wouldn't mind my animated silliness.
This year has been incredible.
IN-CRED-I-BLE
I can't pinpoint one thing or even ten that made this year so awesome, but that in itself just shows how miraculous it was.
For the record I hate all those buzz words (juicy, magical, miraculous) I see them everywhere which demeans the juicy magical miraculous goodness people were intending.
Off the record I think you're amazing and we can use that word as often as we please!
My wish for you is that you reflect on the last hours that we have in 2014 and truly examine the past year.
What are you grateful for?
When did fear and doubt almost stop you in your tracks?
What challenged you the most?
What were your three biggest WINS?
Who did you support?
Who supported you?
Describe a good day in 2014
Describe a remarkable day in 2014
What new experiences did you have?
What baggage did you pick up this year?
Save these questions to your google drive so you can easily reflect on your own.
I also wish that you take time in the next few days entering 2015 and visualize on how you want your year to look. Take your time with this. When done right this process is amazing *insert juicy, magical, or miraculous if you must*
I challenge you to unsubscribe from emails and newsletters that you don't read. If by chance I fall in that category, I wish you nothing but the best. Anything that isn't serving you don't take it with you to 2015, friday, next week, or next month. That's anytime.
That junk drawer in your kitchen and office, sort through it and get rid of all that junk. Fabulous Solopreneurs only have junk in one place and it isn't in a drawer.
Secondly I challenge you to set aside four days in 2015 exclusively for you. If you want to sleep all day or pamper yourself. Whatever you fancy..four days...they don't have to be consecutive. You'll thank me next year. You're welcome in advance.
Thirdly I challenge you to verbalize the one thing that you hate doing in your business and create a system to optimize it if you aren't in a position to outsource it.
In January I’m hosting a series of webinars and trainings on organization and productivity. If these fall under your one thing, join me and I'll help you sort it out. I promise I won't embarrass you and scream "Mama we made it."
Happy New Year my love! May 2015 be filled with your hearts desires and lots of laughter. Oh and of course automation and a chic streamlined business.
3 ways to be more authentic
This article provides three ways to be more authentic.
Authentic is the new keeping it real. You know when people say, "I'm just keeping it real," as if everything before that statement was a facade.
I started this year with the theme of being authentically me. I then added a level to be more transparent.
The funny thing about it all, I stripped back layers of myself to just be more of myself.
No chasers. No filters. just Kimber lee.
3 ways to be more authentic
1. Get very clear on your values.
Once you know what your values are those will immediately create boundaries for you to act out of.
2. Don't do anything that you don't want to do.
I've always been a bit of a rebel and a natural leader.
Yet there are times where I would do things for others or go places because someone else wanted me to. No more. If I really don't want to do something that I don't want to, I don't.
Often things that we condition ourselves to believe are obligatory are not.
So no more wasted energy dreading events or projects that I didn't want to attend/participate in.
The power of no is incredible. Now don't just be a jerk, but do what makes you happy. And people will tell you that it's selfish and you should budge.
Funny how you're selfish for not doing what others want you to do instead of what you really want to do.
Do what makes you feel good.
That's the thing with being authentically you. It's about you and that's okay.
3. Make no apologies for who you are and who you aren't.
At this point in life, we know our strengths and weaknesses. Make no apologies for either.
If you intentionally hurt someone shame on you.
If by accident, apologize. I promise it takes nothing from you, and it was an accident.
If there's an area in your life that you know you need to improve on. Do it on your terms when you're ready.
You can only FLOURISH when you're ready.
So when you're ready to embrace your flaws, weaknesses, and scars embrace them.
Don’t like them? Do something about it.
That’s the funny thing about being authentic, you are just being you.
No bells or whistles. No filters. Just you.
Motivation Monday: 31 Daily Affirmations
31 Daily Affirmations: You are what you think you are. In order for affirmations to work, you have to believe in the power of your mind and be receptive of change.
I love Affirmations. A year ago I shared 31 affirmations over 31 days and they were well received. I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts Behind the Brilliance Episode 14 with Lisa Nicole Bell and she talked about how she records her favorite affirmations. Of course, I had to do this! I am sharing my favorite affirmations with you today and a 2 minute audio of all the affirmations. Enjoy!
What's your worth
What's your worth? You give people your projected value and they decide wether to pay or request a discount. It's up to you
What's your worth?!?
Priceless?
Or some amount no one could ever afford?
Society has implanted those responses into many of us. However, our actions deduct and deduct from this imaginary number that we hold ourselves to.
Sometimes we accept things we truly don't deserve because we don't want others to be hurt (upset) *insert any rationalization that works*
When I started doing online coaching my rates were low. Reasonable but low. These rates weren't tied to my self-esteem self-love or self-worth. Nope. They were just prices.
I didn't think people would pay any more than that. Want to know why I thought that?!?
Because I wouldn't pay any more than that. At that time anyway. Plus others charged similar.
“The rules in life and business aren’t applicable to all. One does not fit all”
My time and my knowledge were extremely discounted.
The clients I attracted were okay. Some were awesome and others I dreaded the day and the times of our appointments.
Cheap prices attract cheap people.
People who weren't willing to do the work.
Of course they didn't outright say it, but week after week it was another excuse.
For the record: I don't do well with excuses. Let's just be honest. I rather you tell me, "I thought it was dumb and I didn't do it." We can work through that. But excuses...nope..I don't have time.
Have you ever lowered your expectations for someone or something?!? How was the experience?!? Did you regret it?
We have all settled. Don't even fix your pretty face to shake your head "not me," we all have.
I used to date this guy. Let's call him Ray. We met through mutual friends. Initially, I ignored him and played on my phone or talked to everyone but him. I wasn’t interested. I knew his type: charismatic, funny, but always had a new piece of eye candy (beautiful breathtaking women) on his arm. Women loved Ray and his charisma. He got along really well with everyone. Ray was okay, he was cute, but not fine. Everyone loved Ray.
You know the checklist women have of all the things they want a man to have?
Ray may have had 0.002 qualities on my list.
He was charming, funny, and nice.
Some where along the line I settled and gave him my number. I continually told him we couldn't date. I don't remember how long I kept telling him this because we clearly were dating. We were always spending time together.
He was nice & fun.
This man drove me crazy. He was clingy and annoying. When I couldn’t deal anymore I broke things off.
It was bad, like stalkerish always looking over my shoulder police protective order bad.
But Ray was nice and fun...he just didn’t respect my values. And somewhere along the line, I gave him the silent authority by settling.
I settled and had to deal with unnecessary drama.
Moving forward.
Earlier this year I worked with a branding coach and I paid her $250 for 30 minutes. Let me type that again...$250 for 30 minutes. I know you're thinking girl it wouldn't be me. I was thinking that too.
When I tell you those 30 minutes made a dynamic shift in my business, that $250 was nothing. Now I do 15 minute free sessions and I know many women receive extreme value from them, but it's free so any value will be received.
I had anxiety before meeting with this coach. And when I say anxiety, I mean I wanted to email her and cancel every day until my appointment that was scheduled two weeks out because she only did her laser sessions on Mondays.
Our session came and in 30 minutes as expected she rocked my world.
I was already in the process of rebranding (from general life coaching to biz coaching & lifestyle design). So her process and insight were icing on the cake.
Even with all that, I still paid $250 for 30 minutes.
Not even an hour.
I thought who did she think she was?!?
Then I realized..she knows exactly who she is. She knows how long she wants to work with a client, she knows how much her time and value are worth, and she knows she can deliver on the value.
I started offering 15 min free sessions. (Remember I didn't want to work with just anyone that hit that paypal link anymore).
I'm not for everyone. And Neither are you. So don't take things so personal some times. You know the times when you feel rejected. Be thankful in advance.
“Rejection is God’s protection.”
Those 15 minute sessions changed everything. No more emails asking about my services (& all the info was already on the work with me page). People had me on the phone and the chemistry was there or it wasn't. Those sessions leveraged who I worked with and how I worked.
Every month I set how many free sessions I would offer and had people to complete an application to be considered. 15 minutes we talked and we worked through whatever they wanted based upon the application. No strings attached. I didn't even pitch.
Wanna know why?!?
I knew my worth and then they did too. I gave them my all in 15 minutes.
Those free sessions turned into client after client.
I completely changed my monthly program. Where I used to work with people for 3 months to where they wanted to be. Now it's an Action Jackson packed month of WORK! I increased my monthly rate. If anyone tried to haggle me and they took advantage of the 15 minute call I'd take $100 off.
Magic happened.
I filled every spot that I had one month. Cool. Then another month. And then I had an overflow.
It actually scared me. Like what the?!?
Mindset is something else.
I am booked through September (registration for October will be up mid September) for my unadvertised monthly program and at the new monthly rate. Less time, more money, and more fun. Magical.
Pricing is something that will always be something personal, just as our worth. I can see you being mistreated and I can KNOW you deserve more and better. It means nothing, if you don’t agree & act on it.
I stopped just accepting crumbs because I wanted to help everyone. I can't help everyone even though I always try.
So as I've been doing the werk weds series. I've seen so many women that I want to win! I'm silently screaming BOO you got this!!! I got your back! Yet I see flaws in their branding, strategies, websites, and pricing. I want to email them and say hey boo fix XYZ and watch the transition. But I can't.
So what I did decide to do is:
Offer a scholarship to work with me for $5 in August for one person. And that $5 will be donated to Divas, Inc. #payingitforward. The scholarship will be live August 5th and will continue each month until 2014 expires.
Live. Love. Action
1. Regardless if you’re in biz or just wanting the best life…where are you giving discounts to others?
2. How do you feel afterwards?
3. Do something this week for yourself to make a deposit into you.
What making a Pink Lemonade Stand taught me
What I learned from making a pink lemonade stand
Last weekend my dad, Huni, and my little boo created the lemonade stand.
This was our inspiration:
I found the picture via Pinterest and I thought it would be difficult. I text my dad the picture and asked if we could make it. His response, "anything for baby girl!" Gotta love my daddy.
So I told Huni who is not handy at all, that he was going to have to help. He replied okay, not knowing what help actually meant.
Saturday comes and I start getting nervous. Can we actually carry it out?
I show daddy the picture again and he starts figuring our the measurements of the boards we'll need. We head to the hardware store and get the materials. At the register daddy offers to pay for everything. He said "consider it a donation." I was ecstatic and put my wallet down.
It's real in these non-profit organization streets.
Those bugs were eating my skin!!
A few hours and 235,578 mosquito bites later it was done.
It looks so much better than the inspiration.
I couldn't believe I had so much doubt before we started.
The three things I took away from the experience:
1. Don't let self-doubt keep you from going forward.
I initially doubted we could pull it off and ours turned out even better. Inspiration can easily turn into comparison; so be careful!
2. Collobarate! Collaborate! Collaborate!
A lot of times it's easier to just do things yourself and not have to deal with other people's excuses and drama. However, I knew I could not pull this off without daddy. I didn't have the tools, skill, or eye to complete it. Always keep people around that are smarter than you. Plus I solicited Huni's help because I knew he's stronger than I am, and would be able to complete the delegated tasks that daddy would give him.
3. Stay true to your visions.
Last summer I was inspired to have the lemonade stand and I knew exactly how I wanted everything to be. Giving up on the lemonade stand would have been settling.
Life Happens
Life is as beautiful as you allow the experience to be.
I was talking to my cousin the other day, and I said, "yeah I told XYZ s(he) should go to therapy."
My cousin replied, "you tell everyone to go to therapy."
I started to feel offended as if she was discounting what I said.
In my mind, I thought, "no I just told you that, so you think I say that to everyone."
I didn't say it, but I was thinking it.
Hey girl hey if you're reading. :) Love you boo.
So I replied, "No I only tell people who need to go." Then I changed the subject.
I think therapy is amazing!
What therapist doesn't think its amazing?!? Forgive me for being partial.
I've been to therapy twice. Both experiences were awkward. The first time I was in high school and I thought my therapist was a clown. [I’m an adult and still know her & still think she's a clown] Not all therapists are created equally.
I only saw her once and thought therapy was for suckers.
The second time I was in grad school. It's always suggested that counseling students go to therapy to resolve their own issues and understand how it feels to go to therapy.
This time I had an array of emotions and thoughts. Aside from going for the experience, I was going THROUGH some stuff.
I knew I had high resilience and was dealing with it, but I was still going THROUGH. I was honest with her. Extremely honest.
I just didn't want her to diagnose me.
Granted I knew she had to diagnose me, because the insurance companies don't pay just "because."
So I asked her what my diagnosis was.
She was shocked. I explained to her that with everything I was going through, I was handling it. I'll never forget it was as if I were in front of a judge pleading my case. First I had just bared my soul to this woman for 60 minutes. Then for 10 minutes I'm in lawyer mode. [Therapy is generally 45-60 minutes, but the first session can be longer depending…]
She said, “baby, you're going to be an amazing therapist, and you know what?”
I teared up, “what?”
She replied: Life happens.
I smiled and wiped my teary eyes.
That session changed my whole thought process of therapy.
That one session was all I needed.
Things happen to people. Some horrible things. Some not so horrible things. Some people can deal with it. Others get stuck. Some try to move on but leave it unresolved.
Those that leave it unresolved are those that I recommend to go to therapy.
When issues go unresolved for long periods of time it becomes like an internal 6 car pile up. The clean up isn't as easy as if there were just one car, even two. The bigger pile ups usually have a web of onlookers, witnesses, and bystanders. Someone is hurting, if not dead. And since this an internal pile up, the hurt person is the one with the unresolved issues and the pain can feel as if they lost a piece of their soul.
These are the people I tell to go to therapy. Because life does happens. Sometimes its out of our control. Other times we’re the ring leader of our own crazy circus. We all go through things. Some things as we were children and some as adults.
How we navigate through these things determines our resiliency.
When doing life coaching I always assess where my ladies are. Even my business ladies. Being stuck is an easy thing to get over. We can work through that in coaching. Everyone gets stuck. The thing about being stuck is it's easy to self identify.
Ignoring and acting as if everything is okay without processing and healing leads to unresolvement.
Unresolved issues are deeply embedded and are a distant memory. The pain pushes it into the subconscious portion of our brains. You know they say denial is one hell of a drug. Indeed it is.
Are there areas of your life where you are stuck or are you walking on the broken glass of unresolvement?
Life happens to us all. Life is so beautiful and rich when we are actively LIVING not just existing and working through.