We Made It - Happy New Year + a download

Mama we made it!

If we were to ever hang out, which we really should in 2015 I would probably blurt that out randomly. You would be having such an amazing time that you wouldn't mind my animated silliness.

This year has been incredible.

IN-CRED-I-BLE

I can't pinpoint one thing or even ten that made this year so awesome, but that in itself just shows how miraculous it was.

For the record I hate all those buzz words (juicy, magical, miraculous) I see them everywhere which demeans the juicy magical miraculous goodness people were intending.

Off the record I think you're amazing and we can use that word as often as we please!

My wish for you is that you reflect on the last hours that we have in 2014 and truly examine the past year.

What are you grateful for?

When did fear and doubt almost stop you in your tracks?

What challenged you the most?

What were your three biggest WINS?

Who did you support?

Who supported you?

Describe a good day in 2014

Describe a remarkable day in 2014

What new experiences did you have?

What baggage did you pick up this year?

Save these questions to your google drive so you can easily reflect on your own.

I also wish that you take time in the next few days entering 2015 and visualize on how you want your year to look. Take your time with this. When done right this process is amazing *insert juicy, magical, or miraculous if you must*

I challenge you to unsubscribe from emails and newsletters that you don't read. If by chance I fall in that category, I wish you nothing but the best. Anything that isn't serving you don't take it with you to 2015, friday, next week, or next month. That's anytime.

That junk drawer in your kitchen and office, sort through it and get rid of all that junk. Fabulous Solopreneurs only have junk in one place and it isn't in a drawer.

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Secondly I challenge you to set aside four days in 2015 exclusively for you. If you want to sleep all day or pamper yourself. Whatever you fancy..four days...they don't have to be consecutive. You'll thank me next year. You're welcome in advance.

Thirdly I challenge you to verbalize the one thing that you hate doing in your business and create a system to optimize it if you aren't in a position to outsource it.

In January I’m hosting a series of webinars and trainings on organization and productivity. If these fall under your one thing, join me and I'll help you sort it out. I promise I won't embarrass you and scream "Mama we made it."

Happy New Year my love! May 2015 be filled with your hearts desires and lots of laughter. Oh and of course automation and a chic streamlined business.

Ignore the noise

People are full of a lot of things. One thing in particular is advice. We all love to tell someone what we think and how they should do things. Often times this advice is unsolicited. Then there are times when we ask for the advice.

Be Careful what you ask for.

Agendas. We all have one. Sometimes advice get tangled in someone's agenda.

And this isn't in the paranoid sense that someone is out to get you.

However, their agenda frames their thought processes. So in times things that they say to you truly don't apply to you because their frame of reference is coming from where they are & have been.

Ignore the noise.

Once you get clear. And I mean super clear of your values...don't deviate from them.

Your values will help define your goals, passions, and purpose.

If something or someone doesn't align then...ignore the noise.

If you are following social media accounts that aren't positive...delete them. Even if it's someone in your family...DELETE them.

If that makes you uncomfortable since social media is so important to many, hide (facebook) mute (twitter) them. I'll block someone, family or not so QUICK!

My peace and purpose are far more important than a simple "we follow each other." And it doesn't mean I don't love or like the individual. It just means we aren't aligned and I don't want their "stuff" in my subconscious.

Everyone does not deserve to be a part of your subconscious.

If you’re on email lists that aren't helping you to get where you need to be, unsubscribe.

Living intentional takes some work until it becomes automatic.

Learn to discern what's for you and block the rest.

Ignore the noise.

Noise is essentially anything that distracts you from completing what's necessary.

Some coaches will tell you to stop watching television. Television is not the devil. [SN: scandal comes back tomorrow. Let's all have a silent scream fest!!!]

Okay, back to business. Watching tv, reading books, and listening to podcasts or webinars are all okay. Now when these mediums distract you from completing what you need to do...they become noise!

Ignore the noise!

Comparison + Research

Remember in school when the teacher said to keep your eyes on your own paper. You know the saying "stay in your own lane."

This right here will eliminate all sorts of noise and self doubt. Comparing yourself to others takes time away from what you could be improving on. Researching others offerings and services and processes takes away time from you researching what you need to do. Carbon copies are so 1990. You're too fly for that.

Live. Love. Action

1. Unplug from social media from time to time + unfollow + block when necessary.

2. Brain dump weekly at minimum.

3. Smile & nod @ unsolicited and solicited advice and do what feels best to you.

4. Unsub from mailing lists you never read and (or) aren't providing you value.

5. Stay in your lane

6. Call someone you love & ask them what was the funniest thing that they have experienced today.

Motivation Monday: 31 Daily Affirmations

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I love Affirmations. A year ago I shared 31 affirmations over 31 days and they were well received. I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts Behind the Brilliance Episode 14 with Lisa Nicole Bell and she talked about how she records her favorite affirmations. Of course, I had to do this! I am sharing my favorite affirmations with you today and a 2 minute audio of all the affirmations. Enjoy!

DOWNLOAD THE AFFIRMATION PDF HERE

DOWNLOAD THE AFFIRMATION AUDIO HERE

July Goals

Im always talking about goals and I wanted to get in the habit of sharing mine monthly. Nothing elaborate just business and personal goals. I've written my quarterly goals out in detail and by month but this is just a synopsis. 

Biz Goals:

Blog more (2-3 times a week) 

Pitch Interviews for Daydreamers Paradise Podcast (*info coming soon) 

Fundraising for Divas, Inc.

Complete & Promote Activate your Amazing Challenge for August 

Ignore the noise 

Personal Goals:

Play everyday 

Workout four days a week 

Read for a minimum of 30 minutes every day.

Call/Text/message someone (different person each day) everyday at 2:30pm to encourage/uplift their day.

What are your goals for this month? 

What filter are you wearing?

We experience life through a filter. Our filter comes from experience or lack thereof.

None of us will EVER have the privilege of being able to have the option of having the same exact filter as someone else.

That's pretty awesome when you think about it. We have something that no one else will EVER have. Even if we explain if to them, they still won't see it the SAME as us because we can't merely box our entire story and life into a box to explain how the filter even developed.

We all get caught up in our own lives, that we forget this.

Everyone you encounter receives you through the filter of where they currently are.  (tweet this)

Their lens may be dirty, scratched, cracked, shiny, blue....you get it. Don't take it personal. It's never personal.

Our filters come out through thoughts, opinions, and actions.

Ever notice how a person with a guilty conscience acts?!? They automatically assume you mean things based upon their dirty filter.

So when you share your big glorious dreams with people and they don’t respond with excitement, don’t take it personal.

When someone judges you based upon your choices, don’t take it personal.

They are looking through their filter. It isn’t meant to harm you or shy you away, it’s to protect you, as far as they’re concern.

Unless they are just negative nancy’s that need a complete filter transport or a high five across the face.

We usually aren’t offended by negative people that don’t mean anything to us or those whose opinions we devalue. With that said it may be time to rid yourself of those people. Or on a lighter note add another filter just for them: You won’t discuss things with them, where you know they won’t respond honestly and unbiased.

Common filters:

1. Everyone should go to college.
2. Everyone should get married.
3. Men should (insert what you believe)
4. Women should (insert what you believe)
5. Failure is the worst thing ever.
6. Only strangers rape/sexual assault
7. The early bird gets the worm.
8. Working for the government is true financial security. 
9. Everyone should purchase a home. 
10. *Insert your own.*

And sometimes it’s hard for all of us to be honest and unbiased, so be gentle. Just like with vision, our filters can be altered and improved. Instead of buying glasses and contacts and having an exam, take the initiative to "clean” any filter that you have that isn’t quite 20/20.

Live. Love. Action. 

1. Detach yourself from the criticism given. It's normal to feel happy when you're celebrated and defensive when criticized. 

2. Subtract their filter and find the part of the advise/statement that was helpful. 

3. Don't take it personal. 

What does Multi-Passionate even mean?!?

This is the age of new words and phrases. Selfie has made it to the dictionary. It shows the power of social media. Kinda empowering when you sit back and think about it. 

Enough about that. So you might know or notice I say multi-passionate a lot. I'm not sure what I used before. 

Multi passionate simply means, you are passionate about many things.

Isn't that all of us?!?

It's most people I know. Many people will tell you to focus on one thing. Don't listen to them! Unless one thing is your thang! 

My entire life I have loved several things. I'm oneof those people that seems to be ALL over the place but insanely passionate about ALL this stuff. 

Multi passionates often get stuck. Between dream killers & gate keepers questioning logic or plans. When you love more than one thing it's hard to get started. 

Good news: you don't have to solely pick one. But you do have to START.

My advice: just start. 

Don't worry how it looks. You can make changes. Yeah you're allowed to change your mind without the dreaded four words from the dream killers "I told you so." 

Change doesn't mean failure. It means change. & guess what some pretty amazing things come out of failure. Embrace change & failure...or get used to being average and mediocre.

Someone had to tell you. I'm no dream killer or gatekeeper. I'm you're number one dream chaser dressed in a cheer leader uniform with your name all over it, if you're serious about those passions. 

If not, then I'm just this crazy sexy cool biz coach that hangs out online. 

Three amazing things about multi-passionates: 

1. We're creative idea generators. Hence they call me the brainstorming bombshell. 

2. Our energies and passion are contagious. 

3. We are great thinkers. 

4. And just because of the rebel I am...the fourth is we are experts with many talents. AKA Polymath. If you don't feel you are an expert YET, you need to get started. 

Girl boss or Leadhers?

I saw this hashtag on Instagram a few weeks back. Then discovered it was a title of a book. Founder of Nasty Gal. I haven't checked to see if the library has a copy yet. I wouldn't buy it, definitely would have to be a library share or borrow. 

Earlier I posted a quote on Instagram as I typically do and I used the hashtag #girlboss it made me think how the term boss doesn't sit well with me. I'm big on words & what we speak out of our mouths. 

I want to be a leader. I am a leader. Natural born. 

Mya Angelou passed last week and she was a leader. Oprah is a leader. True innovaters leading to change. Who remembers bosses?!? Most people don't even like their boss. I remember I used to always correct a supervisor when he would introduce himself as my boss. No boo, you're my supervisor. No one is my boss...I control me. 

Words are simply words. I get it. Maybe my rebellion was just showing out.

But words have meanings that we've all grown to know. Isn't that why we had vocabulary in elementary? It wasn't enough for us to spell them correctly; we had to know what they meant, and how to use them correctly.

Remember you're striving for a purposeful life. 

Here are some words I avoid using: Can't. Hope. 

Can't- unless it's not humanly possible, then I won't say "can't"...I may need to say I don't want to...or I don't want to try. Those tend to be more accurate. 

Hope-hope is a contradiction. Instead of believing we insert a bit of uncertainty. "I hope you have a good day." Eliminate the possibility of the negative and state "have an amazing day!" Or "I hope this happens..." You don't have faith that it will occur when you say hope.

According to the authors of Words Can Change Your Brain:

By holding a positive and optimistic [word] in your mind, you stimulate frontal lobe activity. This area includes specific language centers that connect directly to the motor cortex responsible for moving you into action. And as our research has shown, the longer you concentrate on positive words, the more you begin to affect other areas of the brain. Functions in the parietal lobe start to change, which changes your perception of yourself and the people you interact with. A positive view of yourself will bias you toward seeing the good in others, whereas a negative self-image will include you toward suspicion and doubt. Over time the structure of your thalamus will also change in response to your conscious words, thoughts, and feelings, and we believe that the thalamic changes affect the way in which you perceive reality.

So not only am I a leader. I am a leadHER and I'm all for EmpowHERment. 

What one word should you stop using?!? Let me know over on Facebook. 

Virtual Passion Party

Remember a few weeks ago, I was playing around with the idea of a passion party?!? I think the idea is pretty awesome and supportive. 

It would be the first Thursday of every month at 9pm until Scandal comes back on. ;) Starting June 5, 2014. Our first passion party. 

Celebrate the wins for the previous month & goals for the current month. It's a party it's a party!!! 

You'll call into a line. I'll be there [you + some other awesome ladies] and we'll chat it up about goals, dreams, and passions. A mini support session within the community of crazy sexy cool creatives. Maybe even a little girl talk if we have time. Gain access here. I'll send you the phone number and access code. 

Who is on your money team?

We all have that one girlfriend that we can call on no matter what! Doesn't matter the time or topic. We don't have to even think about her judging us or telling another soul. She is our personal piece of heaven on earth. 

When it comes to our BIG dreams and goals, sometimes our girl just isn't who we need to talk to. She will want the best for us, but she's not holding us accountable for our stuff. You know really calling us out on our stuff when we don't complete the things that will take us to where we ultimately want to be. 

In order to succeed you need to place yourself amongst those you view as successful. 

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. ”

— Jim Rohn

I have distanced myself from people over the past few years for the following reasons: 

1.) I'm really busy trying to change the world. 

2.) I don't have time for gossip & negative energy. 

3.) I'm seeking genuine connections to aide in the projects I'm working on.

4.) Not everyone understands the hustle and sometimes I just don't feel like explaining WHY I work as hard for my dreams. 

When I first heard of the “Money Team,” I giggled. Floyd Money Mayweather is a boxer who has coined his support system as The Money Team. Each member is successful and hard working. We can’t deny their work or hustle. A little unorthodox and crazy, but successful and hard working never the less. 

When developing your money team you need someone that's objective and honest. They aren't going to agree with all ideas and practices just because they like you. You want honest feedback and suggestions. We all grow from criticism. 

Benefits of your money team: 

Your money team will be there for you to bounce ideas off of. 

This team will actively seek opportunities that benefit you. 

This team wants you to win just as bad as you want to breathe. 

You have to want it as bad as you want to breathe. 

There's no competition within this team. As the love and support is reciprocal. As they are helping and guiding you, you are doing the same for them. 

This team could be comprised of two or more people. You could meet weekly via phone, email, a Facebook group, or Skype. You all decide. Your team will be a mastermind group that is exclusive to sharing your dreams, goals, and desires. Perfect for go getters who may get sluggish from time to time. 

Weekly review what tasks each person needs to complete to get a step closer to their desired goal. 

Come up with systems that work for you, share them. Encourage them to do the same. 

Your team could be compromised of people doing similar things or different. The important factor is you are all actively pursuing your goals, dreams, and passions. 

This team will be your pick me up when you're feeling discouraged and feel like you're stuck and all the work or actions you're putting forth are in vain. They will be there to celebrate your mini and humongous successes. 

We all need support. Success is usually very lovely. It doesn't have to be that way for you, unless you want it. If you find some one that has impeccable drive that you admire shoot them an email or message asking if they are in a mastermind or have an accountability partner. Give them a few sentences on what you do and wait for their response. 

Boom! It's that simple. 

I was thinking...no I can't be your accountability partner...you know I would love to...but I truly cant. I am however thinking about having a free monthly call where we all can celebrate whatever. Call it a passion party. So once a month for an hour hop on a group conference line and chat it up about goals, dreams, and passions. Maybe even a little girl talk if we have time. Still playing around with the idea, but I'm always up for a good passion party. Let me know on Facebook, if you would attend. 

Quarter Two Living

Quarter Two starts today..are you ready?!? I know you aren't a coaster, you know someone just coasting through life, and these goals and dreams that you have are attached to completion dates. Naturally, I'm not a very organized person, so the thought of completion dates and quarters used to intimidate me a little. Coasting was cool in the 90's, but what car doesn't offer cruise control now? Get it? Coasting…cruise control, it was funny the first time I typed it. 

Unless you're okay with how your life is this very moment and are perfectly okay (hey grammar police I did that on purpose) with living today over and over for the next 30 plus years, by all means keep dreaming and creating goals that you'll never take action on. Thinking about doing is not doing...it's just thinking. 

Some people plan for the entire year. My mind doesn't work well under large constraints. 90 days is a push, but I know it's imperative to my success. I've completed all my Quarter 1 goals. Woop! woop! Wanna know how I did it?!? I lived intentional. 

We all have things we want. Write them down. Stop storing everything in your mind and you'll decrease some stress, worry, and improve your sleep. That's the psychologist in me, I apologize. ;) 

Determine how long it will take to get what you want. 

If you want a new pair of red bottoms, don't feel silly or bad, that's what you want. But figure out a plan on how to get them. So you might be thinking, well duh!?! Swipe my credit card. *clears throat* if another goal on that list is to save more money or get out of debt, you have a big of a contradiction, but no worries. 

This is why you write it down, so you can process it and come up with alternatives. 

You want the shoes and to save money (or eliminate debt) [Sn: be super specific and note how much money and print out the shoes or keep the magazine ad so you can see it often. This helps PUSH you to get what you want]. 

Live. Love. Action. 

1. What are three goals for quarter two? 

2. How can you achieve these goals in 90 days? 

3. Will it truly take 90 days for completion? Be honest!

Write it down. Only 3% do and then are more likely to achieve their goals. Write it now!