ABC’S of Self Love
Just as the alphabet is the foundation for words, sentences, communication, and education. These ABC’s of self-love are the foundation for a euphoric life full of joy.
A is for Acceptance. Accept yourself as you are TODAY!
B is for Be Kind. Be Kind to yourself.
C is for Cultivate. Cultivate your truth.
D is for Distance. Distance yourself from things and people that don't bring you joy.
E is for Evaluate. Every 90 days do a self-evaluation. Are current actions getting you to where you want to be in life? Are they aligned with your truth?
F is for Feelings. Allow yourself to feel an array of emotions. If your sad, it's ok, embrace it. Too many times we hide emotions to appease others or because society has taught us just to be "happy," and content.
G is for Gravitate. Gravitate towards your North Star. What’s leading you in life?
H is for Humility. “Clarity and consistency are not enough: the quest for truth
requires humility and effort.”
I is for Invest. Invest in
yourself. Not just a pair of shoes and a Pedi, but things that will enhance the
quality of your life, i.e. personal trainer, life coach.
J is for Joy. “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
K is for Keep. Keep your head up beautiful.
L is for Love. Love yourself enough to not compromise yourself
M is for Move on!
N is for Nurture. Nurture your strengths!
O is for Own. Own your truth!
P is for Protect. Protect your insecurities.
Q is for Question. Question things and situations until you gain clarity.
R is for Respect. Respect yourself!
S is for Sexy. Preserve your sexy!
T is for Transparency. Be transparent and allow others to see your inner light.
U is for understanding. Seek to understand, then to be understood.
V is for voids. Fill the voids.
W is for worth. Know your worth!
X is for excitement (ehhh).
Y is for youth.
Z is for Zest. Find your Zest, things and people that bring you excitement and enjoyment.
Dreams aren't free and change is hard!
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Happy October! I realized that the last quarter of the year is upon us. What does that mean?!?
Today is October 1st, from today until December 31st you have the opportunity to potentially complete one -three goals.
Start working on your goals for 2014 and beyond! Personally, I think New Year’s Resolutions are overrated and definitely underperformed. However, this is the time that society has suggested as a great time to make changes. If you don’t know by now, I’m not a fan of “society” and its suggested rules. Whenever I feel like there’s an issue that needs to be addressed or fixed, that’s when I tackle it. If my Huni was doing something that drove me crazy, I wouldn’t wait until January to tell him we needed to work on that. Resolutions are silly. Real solutions are ideal.
I hate to be the one to break it to you, dreams don’t come true. I hope I didn’t kill any vibes. I just see so many people living in fake realities day dreaming. I don’t want that for you.
We create our dream life, but if we never put forth action, it will remain a dream. When you attach goals with actionable steps with the end result being your dream, life is all good! Goals turn dreams into reality.
1. Get out paper and brainstorm ideas. If you are already aware of a potential goal, then brain dump.
Only 3% of people write down their goals. This is an imperative part of the process.
2. Narrow it down to the top three ideas. If you aren’t excited about three, stick to two or just one.
Excitement and passion will help you to complete the goal. Work isn’t fun and change is hard. Necessary, but hard. So ensure you are excited and happy about the end result. When I was trying to lose my baby weight after my son, my birthday dress was the excitement. Not the dreadful workouts or change in eating habits.
3. Be very specific.
Don’t just say you want to own your own business. What type of business is it? What’s the name of the business? What will it take to start this business? With this type of goal, you will need to use short term goals to get you to your ultimate goal. How much do you want to make? What will it take to get to this goal? What research do you need to do?
4. Make the goal measurable.
How will you measure your success in completing the goal? If your goal is to save more money, then a measurable goal would be that in one month I will have saved 10% of my income.
5. Use guidelines not rules.
If you want to lose 5 pounds, don’t give yourself a rule that you can’t eat after 8 pm. Sometimes situations occur that prevent rules from being carried out. Rules are meant to be broken. Rules are “you can’t do this or that.” Guidelines; however, leave room for adjustments. With your fat loss plan, you can eat after 8 pm if you were working out late and need an after workout snack. Guidelines give you room to roll with the punches. Guidelines are “if this, then this..,” you are essentially preparing yourself for hiccups in your plan, to avoid disappointments and quitting.
6. Schedules over deadlines.
Deadlines produce anxiety, anxiety slows down progress. Schedules are casual and easier to include in your day to day life. Instead of saying by December 31, 2013 I will have written my book. Break it down: Every day for October I will write 2,000 words. In November I will come up with a title and continue writing 2,000 words, if the book isn’t where I want it. Weekly you will add these items to your schedule. It takes off the pressure of a set deadline.
7. Acknowledge what you’re giving up to obtain this goal.
8. Examine your resistance.
Let’s face it- we get in our own way!
Your future and dream life is totally up to you! Stop holding yourself back! Thoughts of inadequacy, fear, comparison, and uncertainty are so not cute. Yeah, we all have them, but we have to focus on the bigger picture.
Live. Love. Action
1. Get your paper out today and brainstorm the goal that you are going to work on for this last quarter.
2. Love yourself enough to take action.
3. Your dream is worth the required work.
I want to try to do a monthly motivational meetup on google hangout. Would you be interested? Email me and we can get that started this month!
Narcissism or Self-Esteem??
I used to think I was a narcissist. People would tell me that my self-esteem was too high. I believed them for years. I took the basic definition of a narcissist, that I was consumed with self. Most people in their late teens are a little self-absorbed not to mention spoiled, so I wasn't truly concerned with the label. I went with it, but didn't internalize the negative traits associated with narcissism. Later I learned that those that were so “concerned” with my esteem merely were mirroring their issues on to me. It’s rare someone is going to tell you “I don’t fully like myself, and I’m uncomfortable with how comfortable you are with yourself.”
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Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Self-confidence is how you feel/think about your abilities. They go together like peanut butter and jelly. These feelings help you to subconsciously and consciously determine the things you do and the things you accept from others.
I love me some me. I celebrate my successes and my failures. I live by the thought if he or she can do it, so can I. They aren't any smarter than I. I really believe this.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.
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I know I have faults (a long list), and I accept them. I know I'm not perfect, but rather perfectly imperfect. I don’t think I’m better than anyone, but I am equal to. My playing ground is level. I don't put anyone down or above me.
My parents used to tell me I was amazing and I could do ANYTHING I wanted. Guess what? I believed them. Still do! Adults uplift younger children and we even lie to them sometimes. You know that picture full of colorful squiggly lines that is “beautiful and amazing,” although we really don’t know what it is. Truly it doesn't matter what’s on that paper. That smiling face full of joy and excitement and pride is what matters. In time, the child will learn his or her strengths. Even if drawing isn't their strength, drawing may provide a great stress relief and become a passion. Side note: not every passion leads to purpose. However, in recognizing passion it helps lead us to our purpose.
“Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry.
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My parents would have dinner parties and allow me to sing for their guests. I cannot sing! Not at all! I would sing Whitney Houston's Greatest Hits and those guests would cheer me on, but I now know that I can't sing. Nothing changed from then to now, but those adults built me up. I can carry a tune, but that’s the extent of that. I love singing and I love music. It makes me feel great in good and bad times. I have a playlist on my iTunes entitled “pity party” whenever I was upset I would get five to ten minutes of listening to the best sad songs I've ever heard. I used to write songs and would/will make up a song and sing in a moment’s notice just to make someone smile. That’s my purpose…helping others find their happy.
“Hard work beats talent”
My Huni is a personal development coach aka personal trainer. He was working with this kid at a basketball camp. I remember he came home and nicknamed the kid "mission impossible." I ask about this kid weekly. I'm a sucker for the underdog, I want everyone to succeed. This is the 5th week and Huni says mission impossible has so much heart and drive that he puts in double the work to make up for the lack of natural ability.
Self-esteem...can
be evaluated simply? How much do I love me? A lot.....is a systematic response.
Answer it in terms of : I won't accept XYZ because I recognize my worth. I am
worth: unconditional love, fulfilling interpersonal relationships, satisfying
work, an abundance of money.
Anything less than your defined worth...is cheating yourself.
If you don't believe your true worth, the Universe won't believe you and certain things will be held from you. Exactly what you project will be returned to you. Want to stop dating losers...think higher of yourself. We attract what we are. Want a better job, produce better results. Don't allow yourself to just be content unless you truly are content. Contentment doesn't include complaining.
Again, anything you put your mind to you CAN do. You have to want to, believe you can, and get to work. Naysayers will forever attempt to instill their fear into us by distraction and saying that we can't do something. How we feel about ourselves impacts our interactions throughout life. How we view our successes and failures determines future failures and successes. Are you mission impossible or mission I AM POSSIBLE? Email me, I would love to know!
Live. Love. Action
1. Define your self-esteem?
2. Love yourself!
3. Examine how you may not be honoring your defined self-esteem.
Daily Affirmation: Changing my thoughts will be a breeze!
31 days of affirmations! How fast did this month go?
I end this series with: Changing my thoughts will be a breeze! Read it, believe it, receive it!
It all starts with our thinking, which leads to change. Such a simple, yet magnificent tool that we all embody.
An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change. Every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation.
— Louise Hay
I challenge you to pick your favorite affirmation and repeat it daily for the next 30 days. Email me or comment below on what that affirmation is. It doesn't even have to be one that I've shared with you. Just an affirmation that you know will lead to the change you desire in your life. I truly believe that we all deserve to be euphorically happy and live our passions, while making our dreams reality. What are you waiting on?
Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Have a wonderful weekend!
Daily Affirmation- Contagious
Good morning beautiful! Read it, believe it, receive it! My success is contagious! Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Sharing is caring! ;) How did you start your week?
Daily Affirmation: Infinite Treasure
Hey! Read it, believe it, receive it! Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Sharing is caring! ;) Hope your weekend is going great!
Daily Affirmation: Harmonious Relationships
Hey There! It's impossible to go through life with our interacting with others. These interactions consume much of our day. For that reason alone, i love throwing this affirmation out to the universe. When your relations and day to day interpersonal interactions are at peace, its easier for you to be at peace. Read it, believe it, receive it! Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Sharing is caring! ;)
Phenomenal Fridays featuring Own Your Sole
Phenomenal Fridays- highlighting phenomenal females who took the leap of faith towards their passions and life’s purpose.
I interviewed Stephanie Cook owner of Own Your Sole. She was
gracious enough to share how adversity pushed her passion into profit.
1.) Tell me a little about yourself and your company.
My name is Stephanie Cook I am a 32 year old native of Newport News , Va. I am the Owner of Own Your Sole shoetique. I started my company after I was laid off from my job of 7 years. I had always wanted to start my own business but this was the push I needed.
2.) What challenges do you think you face for being a woman in your field?
The biggest challenge I face is making my brand bigger than my competition. However nothing great comes easy. So, I believe my time will come when God sees fit.
3.) What advice do you have for any woman considering starting her own brand/business?
The only advice I have is Do It. There is no better feeling than to see your hard work and dedication appreciated.
4.) Have you ever dealt with self-doubt regarding your company?
Absolutely, I have doubts every day . This is new to me; I am totally out of my comfort zone. I am learning that speaking positive things into the universe makes every doubt disappear
5.) What's your daily mantra?
Today I choose my greatness. Today I will own my greatness and play big.
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Daily Affirmation: No right to compare
Good morning! Read it, believe it, receive it! Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Happy Friday! Any exciting plans for this weekend?
Daily Affirmation: Radiate love
Initially I told myself that I would not "annoy" you with multiple affirmations in your inbox, but you know what?!? When shifts begin happening negativity loves to show it's ugly face. So instead of my thought of sending a few affirmations at a time, it's back to daily.
Read it, believe it, receive it! Positive thoughts will make magnificent changes in your life. If you know someone who could benefit from these affirmations, share away! Sharing is caring! ;) Have a beautiful day.
