Ignore the noise

People are full of a lot of things. One thing in particular is advice. We all love to tell someone what we think and how they should do things. Often times this advice is unsolicited. Then there are times when we ask for the advice.

Be Careful what you ask for.

Agendas. We all have one. Sometimes advice get tangled in someone's agenda.

And this isn't in the paranoid sense that someone is out to get you.

However, their agenda frames their thought processes. So in times things that they say to you truly don't apply to you because their frame of reference is coming from where they are & have been.

Ignore the noise.

Once you get clear. And I mean super clear of your values...don't deviate from them.

Your values will help define your goals, passions, and purpose.

If something or someone doesn't align then...ignore the noise.

If you are following social media accounts that aren't positive...delete them. Even if it's someone in your family...DELETE them.

If that makes you uncomfortable since social media is so important to many, hide (facebook) mute (twitter) them. I'll block someone, family or not so QUICK!

My peace and purpose are far more important than a simple "we follow each other." And it doesn't mean I don't love or like the individual. It just means we aren't aligned and I don't want their "stuff" in my subconscious.

Everyone does not deserve to be a part of your subconscious.

If you’re on email lists that aren't helping you to get where you need to be, unsubscribe.

Living intentional takes some work until it becomes automatic.

Learn to discern what's for you and block the rest.

Ignore the noise.

Noise is essentially anything that distracts you from completing what's necessary.

Some coaches will tell you to stop watching television. Television is not the devil. [SN: scandal comes back tomorrow. Let's all have a silent scream fest!!!]

Okay, back to business. Watching tv, reading books, and listening to podcasts or webinars are all okay. Now when these mediums distract you from completing what you need to do...they become noise!

Ignore the noise!

Comparison + Research

Remember in school when the teacher said to keep your eyes on your own paper. You know the saying "stay in your own lane."

This right here will eliminate all sorts of noise and self doubt. Comparing yourself to others takes time away from what you could be improving on. Researching others offerings and services and processes takes away time from you researching what you need to do. Carbon copies are so 1990. You're too fly for that.

Live. Love. Action

1. Unplug from social media from time to time + unfollow + block when necessary.

2. Brain dump weekly at minimum.

3. Smile & nod @ unsolicited and solicited advice and do what feels best to you.

4. Unsub from mailing lists you never read and (or) aren't providing you value.

5. Stay in your lane

6. Call someone you love & ask them what was the funniest thing that they have experienced today.

September Goals

September is here. One month left in this quarter. I'm trying to be super productive as I have some amazing things planned for the end of the year and 2015.

Last month’s theme ended up being preparation. My theme for the year is transparency and authenticity. Do you have themes for the year/month? They’re helpful in living a purpose filled life.

Business

Launch Dreamer's Paradise

Blog "daily" in September

Complete biz guide

Weekly meal plans for BGEC

Divas 2014-2015 School Program

Plan Diva Talks

Free monthly call

Personal

Workout 3 times a week

Girl talk with diva for 15 minutes each day

Complete Whole30

Football mom chronicles

Dance mom chronicles

What are your goals for September? Let me know in the comments below. 

July Goals

Im always talking about goals and I wanted to get in the habit of sharing mine monthly. Nothing elaborate just business and personal goals. I've written my quarterly goals out in detail and by month but this is just a synopsis. 

Biz Goals:

Blog more (2-3 times a week) 

Pitch Interviews for Daydreamers Paradise Podcast (*info coming soon) 

Fundraising for Divas, Inc.

Complete & Promote Activate your Amazing Challenge for August 

Ignore the noise 

Personal Goals:

Play everyday 

Workout four days a week 

Read for a minimum of 30 minutes every day.

Call/Text/message someone (different person each day) everyday at 2:30pm to encourage/uplift their day.

What are your goals for this month? 

Virtual Passion Party

Remember a few weeks ago, I was playing around with the idea of a passion party?!? I think the idea is pretty awesome and supportive. 

It would be the first Thursday of every month at 9pm until Scandal comes back on. ;) Starting June 5, 2014. Our first passion party. 

Celebrate the wins for the previous month & goals for the current month. It's a party it's a party!!! 

You'll call into a line. I'll be there [you + some other awesome ladies] and we'll chat it up about goals, dreams, and passions. A mini support session within the community of crazy sexy cool creatives. Maybe even a little girl talk if we have time. Gain access here. I'll send you the phone number and access code. 

Who is on your money team?

We all have that one girlfriend that we can call on no matter what! Doesn't matter the time or topic. We don't have to even think about her judging us or telling another soul. She is our personal piece of heaven on earth. 

When it comes to our BIG dreams and goals, sometimes our girl just isn't who we need to talk to. She will want the best for us, but she's not holding us accountable for our stuff. You know really calling us out on our stuff when we don't complete the things that will take us to where we ultimately want to be. 

In order to succeed you need to place yourself amongst those you view as successful. 

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. ”

— Jim Rohn

I have distanced myself from people over the past few years for the following reasons: 

1.) I'm really busy trying to change the world. 

2.) I don't have time for gossip & negative energy. 

3.) I'm seeking genuine connections to aide in the projects I'm working on.

4.) Not everyone understands the hustle and sometimes I just don't feel like explaining WHY I work as hard for my dreams. 

When I first heard of the “Money Team,” I giggled. Floyd Money Mayweather is a boxer who has coined his support system as The Money Team. Each member is successful and hard working. We can’t deny their work or hustle. A little unorthodox and crazy, but successful and hard working never the less. 

When developing your money team you need someone that's objective and honest. They aren't going to agree with all ideas and practices just because they like you. You want honest feedback and suggestions. We all grow from criticism. 

Benefits of your money team: 

Your money team will be there for you to bounce ideas off of. 

This team will actively seek opportunities that benefit you. 

This team wants you to win just as bad as you want to breathe. 

You have to want it as bad as you want to breathe. 

There's no competition within this team. As the love and support is reciprocal. As they are helping and guiding you, you are doing the same for them. 

This team could be comprised of two or more people. You could meet weekly via phone, email, a Facebook group, or Skype. You all decide. Your team will be a mastermind group that is exclusive to sharing your dreams, goals, and desires. Perfect for go getters who may get sluggish from time to time. 

Weekly review what tasks each person needs to complete to get a step closer to their desired goal. 

Come up with systems that work for you, share them. Encourage them to do the same. 

Your team could be compromised of people doing similar things or different. The important factor is you are all actively pursuing your goals, dreams, and passions. 

This team will be your pick me up when you're feeling discouraged and feel like you're stuck and all the work or actions you're putting forth are in vain. They will be there to celebrate your mini and humongous successes. 

We all need support. Success is usually very lovely. It doesn't have to be that way for you, unless you want it. If you find some one that has impeccable drive that you admire shoot them an email or message asking if they are in a mastermind or have an accountability partner. Give them a few sentences on what you do and wait for their response. 

Boom! It's that simple. 

I was thinking...no I can't be your accountability partner...you know I would love to...but I truly cant. I am however thinking about having a free monthly call where we all can celebrate whatever. Call it a passion party. So once a month for an hour hop on a group conference line and chat it up about goals, dreams, and passions. Maybe even a little girl talk if we have time. Still playing around with the idea, but I'm always up for a good passion party. Let me know on Facebook, if you would attend. 

Quarter Two Living

Quarter Two starts today..are you ready?!? I know you aren't a coaster, you know someone just coasting through life, and these goals and dreams that you have are attached to completion dates. Naturally, I'm not a very organized person, so the thought of completion dates and quarters used to intimidate me a little. Coasting was cool in the 90's, but what car doesn't offer cruise control now? Get it? Coasting…cruise control, it was funny the first time I typed it. 

Unless you're okay with how your life is this very moment and are perfectly okay (hey grammar police I did that on purpose) with living today over and over for the next 30 plus years, by all means keep dreaming and creating goals that you'll never take action on. Thinking about doing is not doing...it's just thinking. 

Some people plan for the entire year. My mind doesn't work well under large constraints. 90 days is a push, but I know it's imperative to my success. I've completed all my Quarter 1 goals. Woop! woop! Wanna know how I did it?!? I lived intentional. 

We all have things we want. Write them down. Stop storing everything in your mind and you'll decrease some stress, worry, and improve your sleep. That's the psychologist in me, I apologize. ;) 

Determine how long it will take to get what you want. 

If you want a new pair of red bottoms, don't feel silly or bad, that's what you want. But figure out a plan on how to get them. So you might be thinking, well duh!?! Swipe my credit card. *clears throat* if another goal on that list is to save more money or get out of debt, you have a big of a contradiction, but no worries. 

This is why you write it down, so you can process it and come up with alternatives. 

You want the shoes and to save money (or eliminate debt) [Sn: be super specific and note how much money and print out the shoes or keep the magazine ad so you can see it often. This helps PUSH you to get what you want]. 

Live. Love. Action. 

1. What are three goals for quarter two? 

2. How can you achieve these goals in 90 days? 

3. Will it truly take 90 days for completion? Be honest!

Write it down. Only 3% do and then are more likely to achieve their goals. Write it now!